Manly Russian Men
Why do you think all the Russian women want American husbands?
is a Peace Corps joke about the difference between the Russian men and women.
When (not if) the male PCV’s would run out of the dozen condoms
that the Peace Corps issued to us, they could simply ask the nearest female
PCV for her unopened pack. After hearing that joke, I asked the female
PCV’s if it was true. To a woman, yes.
After two years in Russia, I have yet to know more than a handful of expat
women who have Russian boyfriends or husbands, but I know way to many expat
men with beautiful, painfully young, Russian women. Why is this?
Russian men, in general, are the ultimate frat boy, without even the facade
of culture most American frat boys at least try to project. Russian
men enjoy themselves, drinking with their friends long into the night, ignoring
their women, unless they are hungry or the dishes are dirty. Many cheat
and/or beat on their wives, treating them like they should be happy they
have a man at all. The strange thing is, the women are happy just
to have a man, for men are rare here.
the revolution, World War II, Stalin, and the KGB, Russia has a serious
male/female imbalance. I do not know the exact ratio, but I have heard
anywhere from 45/55 to 35/65 as the male to female ratio over the past
100 years. Men are in an enviable position, there are more women than
men, so they can be jerks and still have a line of women waiting for them.
The imbalance, and resulting attitude, shocks the expat women here. They
are used to men like myself, who prostrate ourselves to please them, not
the Russian men who laugh when they ask why the man needs to drink with his
friends every night of the week. Most expat women try to date a Russian
man, but usually only once. After that experience, they resign themselves
to celibacy, as the least painful route.
imbalance also affects the male style here. The men dress like men
all over the world would if they could. Black shirt, pants, shoes,
and coat (so it will not show the dirt of a week with a wash), all day, every
day. The same suit and tie for a week straight, with only a clean
shirt ever other day. Bad hair as a rule, and I mean not touched by
a comb in 48 hours bad hair! Just plain uncaring. I am amazed
that they are let out of the house they dress so bad some days!
Of course this is a generalization of Russian men. I know some gentlemen, like Sasha and Dima, and even one man who’s wardrobe
I envy, Andrey, but I am hard pressed
to find a Russian man who I would call a role model for the next generation.
Russian men are frat boys because they can be, and to an extent, I